Feeling a bit beat up?
You're probably here because you've tried everything. You've circled the same argument a hundred times. You've bent yourself into shapes that don't fit. You've lain awake wondering if this is just how it has to be. I want you to know, it doesn't. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. 
The good news is you can do something different. I'm here to offer you the guidance and skills you need. The sessions aren't just to help you resolve the conflict, I teach you the skills we're using while we're working together.
In our sessions, I'll give you tools you can use immediately, practices that actually work when emotions are high and words feel dangerous. You'll finally experience what it's like to be truly heard. You'll learn to listen beneath the surface, to the tender places where real change happens. We'll go into the hard conversations you've been avoiding, the ones that seem impossible to navigate alone. I know what to do, I will hold you all the way through the process, and I will guide the process to a more successful outcome. You don't have to do this alone. In fact, if you're reading this, you probably can't. Let's talk. Schedule a no-obligation 30-minute call with me right now. |
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Hi, I'm Misha Bonaventura, founder of Clearing Conversations
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For nearly two decades, I've been facilitating conflict resolution in alternative relationship communities, sex-positive spaces, and organizations like Airbnb and Burning Man. I specialize in consent culture, accountability processes, and helping people navigate the complex dynamics of non-traditional relationships.
My biggest joy is helping people fall back in love with each other. I know that sounds lofty when you're in the thick of it—when the pain is so excruciating you can barely be in the same room. Not every relationship can or should be saved, and I'm not here to force that. But my clients are people who aren't ready to walk away, even though they're hurting. Whether you're romantic partners, co-parents, housemates, or business partners, there's still something worth fighting for or just letting go between you. I fill a crucial spot between therapist and lawyer: I'm here when therapy feels too slow or abstract, and legal mediation feels too cold or formal. I'm here when you need someone who understands the messy, beautiful complexity of real human relationships—especially the ones that don't fit into traditional boxes. |
But how will this be different than every other failed conversation I've had?!?
In all my sessions, I bring both coaching and education to the table. My goal is to teach you the tools we're using in real time, so you can resolve conflicts on your own long after our work together ends.
- I hold the process - You don't have to facilitate your own conflict anymore.
- You'll both be heard - In conflict, both people want to hold the speaker role, and when no one is listening, there's no room for resolution. I create a clear framework for speaking and listening so no one gets talked over or shut down.
- We move at your pace - This isn't about rushing to resolution, it's about finding real understanding. I have tools to deescalate when the conversation gets activated.
- Trust gets rebuilt over time - Not through forcing it, but through experiencing what it feels like to be truly seen.
WHO USES CLEARING CONVERSATIONS?
PARTNERS
Partner communication coaching and consulting is a great way to find strategies to regain trust and create a strong foundation to build from, then get skills to have easy clearing conversations on your own.
Testimonial"I was very impressed with how Misha was able to facilitate this difficult conversation in such a time effective manner, while leaving both parties feeling like resolution had been reached after only two sessions."
-S.K. Sunnyvale, CA |
BUSINESSES
Often our work is where we spend the other largest portion of our time besides friends and family. It is worth investing in clear and open communication with your business partners and colleagues.
Testimonial
"Thank YOU for taking the time to come in and speak with our team. I have used the content in my 1:1s and I know several people have employed the tools you gave us in their day to day. "
-A.H, AirBnB |
HOUSEMATES
Co-housing can be very rewarding and very challenging. Having clear housemate relationships are an important part of a happy home life for many creating affordable housing.
TestimonialMy experience of Misha facilitating a (very intense and charged group) conversation could not have been better. She expertly modeled presence and empathy, tracked the emotional and energetic tone of all involved, held awareness of time, and created a very safe container for a difficult discussion. I was deeply moved and inspired by her ability to hold so many experiences at once. Her presence as a facilitator would enhance any group process.
-R.S., Oakland, CA |
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GROUP FACILITATION
Get your team on the same page—before conflict costs you everything.
When your team doesn't know how to navigate tension, it shows up everywhere: in passive-aggressive emails, avoided conversations, siloed departments that won't collaborate, talented people who quietly quit, and clients who sense the dysfunction. You can't afford it, and your people are exhausted from trying to work around it. Here's what changes when I work with your organization: I teach your entire team the same language and tools for handling conflict—so when tensions arise (and they will), everyone knows exactly what to do. No more guessing. No more hoping it'll blow over. No more watching good people struggle alone. In my workshops, your staff learns practical techniques to build genuine rapport, create working alliances across teams, and establish the kind of trust that makes hard conversations possible. These aren't corporate buzzwords—they're skills drawn from nearly two decades of guiding people through conflicts that seemed impossible to resolve. Your team will practice together, stumble together, and leave with tools they can actually use the next day when emotions run high and the stakes matter. |
SPEAKING
Bring me to your event and let me inspire leaning into hard conversations for more peace.
I've spent nearly two decades in the trenches of human connection—from co-producing Bonobo Network and shaping consent culture, to guiding couples through conflicts that seemed unresolvable. I speak on conflict resolution, communication that actually works when stakes are high, consent and accountability in community spaces, and building relationships that don't require you to abandon yourself. My talks aren't theory from an ivory tower—they're drawn from real work with real people navigating messy, beautiful human dynamics. Whether it's a conference, retreat, workshop, or organizational training, I bring practical tools, hard-won wisdom, and the kind of presence that makes difficult conversations feel possible. Let's create something meaningful for your audience. I've spoken and offered workshops at offices, conferences, parties, festivals, and meetings. Reach out to discuss bringing me in as a speaker. Places I've spoken: AirBnB, Burning Man Org, SoulPlay Festival, Lucidity Festival, Sex Geek Summer Camp From Protection to Connection: Understanding Defense Mechanisms
Consent & Accountability: What does it mean as a Community?
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COACHING
Sign up for coaching when relationship dynamics run deep.
In my longer-term coaching programs, we don't just address the surface issue. We look at what's underneath the arguments you keep having. We examine the ways you've each been shaped by your histories, your fears, your desperate attempts to protect yourselves. We practice new skills until they become second nature, not just something you remember when you're calm but can't access when emotions are high. This kind of work takes time. It takes commitment from everyone involved. But it's how lasting transformation happens—not a temporary ceasefire, but a fundamental shift in how you relate to each other. You'll learn to:
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Conflict is normal. How you handle it determines everything.
Most of us were never taught how to navigate misunderstandings, tension, or hurt feelings in a healthy way. And when conflict hits, our nervous system kicks into protective overdrive—even when the "threat" is someone we love or work with every day. Your body is trying to keep you safe, but it's also making it nearly impossible to think clearly, listen well, or find your way through.
Getting help early isn't weakness. It's strategy. Here's what happens when you bring me in sooner rather than later:
My free, no-obligation first call could be the relief you've been searching for all along. Let's talk about what's actually happening and whether I can help. Schedule your consultation now. |
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