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Peer Support

PictureCare Team at Beloved 2019
More and more events are asking for Consent Culture Consulting. After the exposure of the #MeToo movement more events are taking consent seriously. 
My speciality is in creating peer-to-peer support teams for parties and festivals. My scalable approach can support events from 200 to 2000+ participants. 

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I take a three pronged, harm reduction approach to creating a culture of consent for the events I support.

Culture

Consent culture only happens when the culture of event has embraced consent. This means from the moment they look at the event there should be an understanding of the expectation of consent. 
That expectation can be communicated through the website copy, agreement upon purchasing a ticket, and education upon entry to the event. 

Policy

Policy provides a strong foundation for when an incident does happen. There's no guessing game for how an incident will be handled. There's nothing worse than getting a report and not knowing what to do and having to become the judge, jury, and executioner on a matter that isn't easy to understand. 

Support

Support comes from implementing a peer-to-peer counseling team. Having a support team at your event normalizes that while the party is happening not everyone is having a good time. This team 

Peer-to-Peer Support Teams lead by Misha Bonaventura

Bonobo Network ~ Co-Producer & Lead of Peer Support, ongoing since 2014: http://bit.ly/bonobonetworkconsentpolicy
SoulPlay Festivals ~ Director of Culture & Lead SoulSupport, ongoing since 2016: 
https://www.soulplay.co/safety
Beloved Festival ~ CareTeam 2019: https://belovedfestival.com/vision/a-braver-space/

Definition of Consent

At its best, consent is an ongoing collaboration between two or more people in constant verbal, physical, and emotional dialogue about what each other needs to willingly, safely, and pleasurably engage in an interaction with one another. The latin root con-sent literally means "with", "feeling".
  • Affirmative: Agreement was reached before an activity began
  • ​Informed: Risks are commonly understood
  • Specific: You have negotiated the particular range of activities you'll be engaging in together
  • ​Uncoerced: No one was pressured or manipulated to participate in an activity they had reservations about.
  • Ongoing: Consent is re-upped throughout the encounter. Consent can be revoked at any time during the encounter.
  • ​Competent: each person sound enough mind to decide to participate in an activity. (mention inebriation and our value around being sober enough to make good decisions)

Consent Education

VIDEO: Consent: It's Simple as Tea  
VIDEO: It's OK to say "No" by House of Yes NYC, Educational Video Series Vol 2  
ARTICLE: The Three Dimensions of Consent by Michael McDonald 
ARTICLE: Edges, Boundaries, & Limits by Michael McDonald
ARTICLE: 7 Men Share What they Don’t Understand about Consent, Experts Answer their Questions
VIDEO: The Ultimate Guide to How to Avoid Hugs
VIDEO: Planned Parenthood Consent Series
VIDEO: When Do You Know Someone Wants to Have Sex With You by Planned Parenthood
ARTICLE: How Do We Understand Sexual Pleasure in this Age of Consent
CHART: Consent Evaluation Rubric Flowchart from A Touch of Flavor 
ARTICLE: Dissociating When Triggered by Intimacy: A Guide to Checking In, When Checking Out

Support for Someone who has been Harmed

ARTICLE: Resources for those Harmed by Sexual Assault
ARTICLE: Before I Blame Myself and Feel Guilty ​
​PODCAST: On Himpathy

How to Center those Harmed

ARTICLE: Avoiding Victim Blaming 
ARTICLE: ​The Psychology of Victim Blaming
​VIDEO: Absurdity of Victim Blaming
ARTICLE: Centering Survivors in Transformative Justice 
ARTICLE: #MeToo Through a Solutions Lens
ARTICLE: Avoiding Friendly Fire in the #MeToo Moment

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In person and video conferencing available.
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    • individuals
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    • recommendations
    • consent resources