don't take my word for it...read the testimonials.
My experience of Misha facilitating a (very intense and charged) group conversation could not have been better. She expertly modeled presence and empathy, tracked the emotional and energetic tone of all involved, held awareness of time, and created a very safe container for a difficult discussion. I was deeply moved and inspired by her ability to hold so many experiences at once. Her presence as a facilitator would enhance any group process.
-R.S., Oakland, CA 2013
skills you learn along the way:
- Reflective listening
- Distinguishing your "story" about the situation
- Consent based communication
- Love languages
- Naming feelings
- Making clear requests
- Avoiding demands
- Understanding your nervous system reactions
- The value of slowing down
- Forgiveness and apologies done right
frequently asked questions
I don't think anything can help this situation. Why do you think you can help?
I want to assure you, almost everyone deep in conflict feels hopeless about it ever changing. I am here to offer hope that change can happen. Conflict can feel like a bottomless pit of despair, heartache, disappointment, looming therapy, or worse, lawsuits. Clearing Conversations offers a way to start over, find neutral and common ground, and start to find understanding. Clearing Conversations is the bridge to being able to move on.
I don't know if the other person will go to mediation. What should I do?
There are several options. First, I would recommend that we have a free phone consultation to assess your particular situation and see if mediation is right for you. If it seems like you think having Clearing Conversation would be helpful, we can discuss strategies for moving forward. Even if the person will not agree, I can work with you alone to help shine light on the dynamic between you, give you strategies for moving forward, and plan out different scenarios. I also can support you in writing a letter that will make an impact.
The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place. ~ George Bernard Shaw
I can barely be in the same room with the other person. How are we going to have a useful conversation?
Every step of the way, your experience will be skillfully managed and supported. From the first phone call I will help you and all parties involved understand the process, get clear about what each of you wants out of the interaction, create a safe space for meeting, and offer aftercare for a soft landing once we've met.
My emotions are so kicked up right now I don't think I can even have a rational conversation with this other person. I don't trust myself. What should I do?
This is a common occurrence and I am comfortable handling big feelings prior to our in-person meetings. With a one-on-one call or in-person session with Misha you can come back to a centered place, think about the situation from a different perspective, see how the other party might be viewing the situation, and gain some tools for calming down and clearing your head.