It’s important that we include the side of parties we don’t generally think about, the experience of having a hard time. It happens more than we think. In fact, I bet many of us have gone through hard times at an event.
While some of us were having heart-opening, mind-expanding experiences that were totally reconfiguring our capacity for love, others were experiencing things like contraction, shut down, shame, fear and other very challenging emotions and sensations that arise when we get triggered.
As lead on the support team I want to name that emotional triggers happen. And, many times they are small, but sometimes they are big. This can especially be true in settings when we’re exploring intimacy and sensual connection. Even more true when we have partners, lovers, or exes in the space. Basically, the more layers of complexity we introduce to an experience, the more opportunities we have for this material to arise.
Small triggers can feel like slight repulsion, avoiding a person, or a yearning feeling. Big triggers can be traumatic responses from past events triggered by current events.
While experiencing triggers is a natural part of life and ultimately can be an amazing opportunity for us to investigate and integrate pieces of ourselves that need attention and care, they can also be quite overwhelming, scary and in some extreme cases dangerous as they’re happening.
As a community and as individuals, we can be mindful of a few simple things to help these situations stay constructive rather than destructive. Here are some tips both to help us prepare ourselves as well as for what to do if we notice people in need of support.
Also, continue to be kind to yourselves. Post bliss event-drop is a thing. Please reach out, you’re not alone.
with major contributions from Darshana Avila of darshanaavila.com
and Romi Elan of soulplayfestival.com